Joel and I usually agree on everything, but recently we have have this debate on egg harvesting. Not chickens, women. I mean they pay like 6 grand for you to give them some of your eggs that you would menstrate anyway right? I mean I could get myself a nice used Japanese minivan of my choice for that amount! But I don’t like the idea. I feel a responsibility for where my eggs go. I don’t like the idea of a child that is made of half of me running around and me not knowing them, or knowing how they will grow up. As a Christian, I have no problem with all the procedures to have natural children, but I find it is more honorable and an amazing challenge to be a parent who adopts an unwanted child. It’s full of difficulty that a parent of natural children do not experience and I have seen many ways that God has blessed parents that have adopted by giving them several natural children after they adopted one. I also know parents that had natural children and realized the importance of adoption and adopted children after their natural children had grown up. But what does that have to do with egg harvesting? I mean is their anything morally wrong with selling your eggs? Is it silly for me to think I have a biological responsibility for my egg? I think there is something to it. What if the child grows up in a non-Christian home? What if their family breaks up or they are abused? Am I crazy to feel some sort of connection to that? And am I wrong to think that adoption is an option that brings more than just a precious life to your life, but also humility that those of us that have had children naturally have not experienced (at least not the same way). Joel’s argument is basically not in his defense because it’s not like he thinks egg harvesting is a great idea, he just likes to sit back and shoot down my thinking. He also says with my logic, we should never have natural children and adopt first to give homes to those who need families. Well, we are commanded to take care of the widow and orphan. And I don’t think that just because you can’t ovulate doesn’t mean your the only one who should do that. I would adopt but adoption (like medical processes to fertilize and implant eggs) costs alot of money. I don’t have money. I may adopt when I am 40 and experience that beautiful way to parent. I have don’t have a huge problem with the fertilization of anothers egg in order to have your own child. I just have a problem with it being my egg. And the more I think about it, I just think adoption is the BEST option. Not the only option. I can’t be completely unbias on this issue because I have had natural children and I don’t know the feeling of not being able to have your own. It must be painful, disappointing, and like I said, there is humility involved that God honors. Sacrifice of self to take a child that is not biologically yours and may not look like you at all. The stigmata is harsh in some parts of this country. Not everyone gets it. I have grown up with many children that were adopted. It makes me weep with joy every time I hear that a family adopts.
I’m sure I’m missing some major loop holes, I am not a debator, I just speak what I feel. I may be concentrating on a bunny trail instead of the real issue. But I do know that I will not be putting my feet in stirrups for 6 thousand dollars. I can wait for that Honda Odyssey